Why do we see life as a linear journey? Almost as though it is a pilgrimage with some great destination at the end. But it really, really isn’t. Nothing could be further from the truth. Out of all the questions we ask ourselves, this is one of the most important. It deals with our brief existence on earth. Seeing life as a journey sucks all of the joy, spontaneity, and truth from one’s lifetime. It is a terrible mindset to have. We must dedicate time to unlearning this notion… before it is too late.
There is no checklist to follow. No series of milestones. They say to lose your virginity, learn to drive, get married, get a job, buy a house, have children, settle down, retire. Then when one reaches the end of their life, they have nothing to show for it. No achievement. Nothing to be proud of. Again, life is not a series of milestones. Why are we pressured into going down a soulless and outdated route of living? We should pursue our passions. Always. That’s what makes us human. That’s what makes a good life – we learn things along the way. How we should and shouldn’t act. How to differentiate comfort from stagnancy. We must pursue our calling in life. Our purpose. Everything else follows that. Happiness and success are by-products of this pursuit.
Life is a dance. It isn’t ordered… we must do what we were born to do, and accept everything that follows that. Every moment is fleeting. Temporary. These moments will never return. We’re so anxious because our futures are predetermined by the cultures we live in. When life does not unfold in this manner (because it’s impossible to predict) we assume there is something fundamentally wrong with us. We should only conform to what benefits us. Some aspects of social order are essential – like the law. But the bad ones elude our vision. Working jobs we hate. Trapping ourselves in loveless relationships and marriages. Drinking and smoking and eating terrible food because all of these things are dangerously cheap.
Blind conformity – to me, at least – is a form of premature death. We snuff out our flames in order to fit in. We do not pursue what we’re good at and what we love doing, because ‘reality’ is more important. Nobody knows anything. As long as we do not harm anyone else, we should never be told how to live our lives. Ever. By anyone. No family members, friends, or partners. This is not an excuse to do stupid or immoral things.
We must stop listening to people who think they have the answers.
Nobody has a fucking clue.
Have a good day.
– Iestyn
Iestyn Tudor 